When you have a baby you may feel overwhelmed by all the new things you suddenly have to cope with and breastfeeding may seem like yet another thing to get to grips with. Don't worry, learning something new is always a challenge and breastfeeding is no different. Get help from your midwife or health visitor to make sure you get off to a good start.
What happens when my baby's born?
You may think that breastfeeding is something that should come naturally. But this simply isn’t true. It’s a skill that you and your baby learn together, and the journey starts as soon as they’re born. But the good news is, your midwife is there to help you take the first steps.
After your baby is born, you’ll be encouraged to have skin-to-skin contact with your baby straight away. Skin-to-skin means holding your baby naked or dressed only in a nappy against your skin, usually under your top or under a blanket. Skin contact after birth has an amazing effect on babies – it's often called the 'magical hour'. You can read more about this in our page about meeting your baby for the first time.
Skin-to-skin helps your baby keep warm and stay calm. It’s a great bonding experience for you and your baby, and is also a good time to have your first breastfeed. Your midwife will support you with positioning and attachment if you need a bit or help.
After the first skin-to-skin contact, your baby may then feed infrequently. However, all babies are different – the first day could see your baby not feeding at all or seeming to feed constantly in short spurts – this is known as cluster feeding. Both are usual for newborns.
What happens when I’m breastfeeding?
When your baby sucks during breastfeeding, your milk is squeezed down ducts towards your nipples. This causes a strong tingling feeling for some women, although others won't feel anything at all. You'll notice your baby responding with deep rhythmic swallows as the milk starts to flow. If your baby seems to fall asleep before the deep swallowing stage, check they’re properly attached.
What happens in the next few days?
Around day 3-4, you'll probably notice your breasts becoming fuller and warmer. This is your milk 'coming in'. Your baby is ready for more milk and so your body is now producing more. It'll adapt according to your baby's needs and might look thin compared to colostrum (the concentrated milk you produce right after the birth), but it will get creamier as you continue to feed. Your breasts will be fuller and heavier than usual, but any discomfort you feel should pass in a couple of days.
How will I know when my baby's hungry?
Babies may not be able to talk, but they can still communicate and make demands! Our page on feeding cues has more information on how to spot when your baby’s hungry – you’ll soon learn their signs.
How will I know if my baby’s getting enough milk?
Because they can't see exactly how much milk a baby is drinking when breastfeeding, some mums worry if their growing baby is getting enough. You can find out how to tell whether your baby’s getting enough milk here.
How do I feed responsively?
The best thing you can do in the early days and weeks is feed your baby whenever they show signs of being hungry and for as long as they want. Many babies fall into a pattern as their tummy grows and they get used to day and night hours. However, your baby is growing at such a rate that the pattern may change frequently – this is completely normal.
Your baby’s brain is changing very quickly so they need to know they're safe, secure and loved to grow into happy children. You can make them feel this way by:
- responding quickly to signs they're hungry or upset
- limiting the number of people caring for your baby
- holding, carrying and cuddling your baby
- making eye contact, talking to your baby and smiling.
Research shows that it's best for your baby to give them time to fall into their own eating and sleeping pattern – though it can be exhausting if your baby doesn't fall into any type of schedule after a few months. Just hang in there, the time between feeds will grow longer as your baby's tummy develops and they'll soon start to sleep longer at night. In the meantime, our page on coping with breastfeeding at night has some tips to help.
Why should I carry on breastfeeding?
Research shows that the longer you breastfeed, the more protection you give your baby from infections and illnesses, as well as conditions like asthma or diabetes in years to come. It also shows that longer breastfeeding provides more protection for you against breast and ovarian cancer, and osteoporosis.
In addition, breast milk is easier to digest than formula, meaning your baby will be happier, healthier and more settled.
Parent Club's top tips for new mums
- Both you and your baby are learning something new so don't worry if it takes a few days or even weeks to get the knack of breastfeeding.
- Find a feeding position that works for you, everyone is different so keep trying new ones until you're comfortable.
- Aim for as much bare skin-to-skin contact with your baby as possible.
- Try to notice when your baby is hungry before any crying begins as it's much easier to attach them to your breast when both of you are calm.
- Make sure you try and sleep whenever your baby does, whatever time of day or night that may be.
- Don't worry if your baby wants to feed frequently, this is a good thing. Whenever they seem interested in feeding, let them, even if you've just fed them.
- There are so many places you can go to for help and people you can turn to – never be scared to ask for support!