Being a parent isn’t easy. There are so many different things to juggle, from trying to get them to eat healthily to making sure they get to school on time, getting yourself to work, keeping everyone clean and trying to get them to bed b a reasonable time – not to mention food shopping and that great big pile of washing... So while of course we all want to have a solid, trusting, loving relationship with our children, sometimes the business of getting through the day gets in the way.
There’s no magic wand you can wave to build a good relationship with your child and encourage them to confide in you, but little day-to-day actions add up. And taking time to talk to your child and really listen to what they have to say is so worth it. In the short term it can help them behave better – making all that day to day stuff a little easier – and over time it will help them grow up into happy, confident young people and adults.
Our page on building a rewarding relationship with your child has tips for wee ones while our section on building a good relationship with your teen has advice for older children. Here are some tips to help when your child is around 4-12.
These tips aren’t just for parents – aunts and uncles, grandparents and friends are all important for making a child feel safe and loved too.