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How to deal with toddler tantrums

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All you want is for your little one to be happy, so it can be hard to see them get upset or cross. And exhausting!! We can’t promise that we have all the answers, but we do have some good ideas for how to manage tantrums and tips to try and stop them in the first place.

Top tantrum tips

What the professionals say

“Tantrums are how young children deal with frustrations and difficult emotions. If your child is throwing lots of tantrums it may help to try and work out what’s upsetting them. Sometimes even small changes in routine can lead to outbursts. You can help your child manage these difficult emotions by staying close by and offering comfort as this will calm them. Do not ‘give in’ to your toddler’s demands - they must not see tantrums as a way of getting what they want. Staying calm and being there for your child can help them learn better ways to express their feelings.”

Sue Packham, Interim Head of Nursing, Health Visiting Service, Perth & Kinross, NHS Tayside

More information

Our Community & Support page has lots of different places to look for support. Remember you can talk to your Health Visitor or Family Nurse about your child’s behaviour and how you can deal with it.

For other tried and tested help with tantrums, you can also check out Ready Steady Toddler for more suggestions and tips.

While we know you may be under different pressures right now, you might be interested in looking at this free online parenting course for parents and carers of children aged 0 to 19. The course aims to help parents and carers understand their child’s development, support them emotionally and improve their relationship. For more details and to sign up visit and use the code ‘tartan’ to gain free access.

Being a parent is the best job in the world, but it can also be one of the most stressful. There will be days when it all feels a little too much. To help you manage the challenges ahead, Parent Club has some tips on coping with being a parent and keeping calm with your wee one so you can build a rewarding relationship together.

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Last updated: 25 May, 2021