All kids can act up. Sometimes they do it to test boundaries, sometimes they want attention and other times they’re just being kids. You may find yourself getting wound up, but none of us like shouting or losing our temper. It’s upsetting for everyone. Cuddles are better than shouting any day.
Your child copies you and learns from that. So keeping calm, as difficult as it can be, will help them learn to control their own emotions.
It may feel impossible not to get angry when they’re pushing your buttons, but there are things you can do which will help you stay calm.
- If you are angry, avoid eye contact with them for a moment as you try to calm down.
- Count to five with your eyes closed. You could even ask them to count with you.
- Step away for 5 minutes if you can safely.
- Take some deep breaths until you feel yourself calming down.
- Pick your battles, some situations aren’t worth getting in to an argument about.
- Before you react, pause and think about how you want to deal with this.
- Sometimes it’s best to talk things over when you’re not in the heat of the moment. Tell them that you’re both upset, and need a break right now. You can then talk about it later.