Try to rise above the tantrums. They won’t last forever. Here’s how to stay cool and feel in control.
If there’s one thing toddlers do well, it’s throwing a tantrum. The peak time for tantrums is around 2 years old. With good management they will usually begin to fade by 3, and by the age of 4 most toddlers have worked out that there are better ways to get what they want. A full-on temper tantrum is tough for you and frightening for your child. The good news is that a few simple strategies will prevent or contain most of your child’s tantrums.
Why tantrums happen
Tantrums are your wee one’s way to express the frustrations of being a toddler. At this age, children are learning to do many things, from talking to controlling their growing bodies. They want to do so much, but are often held back by their capabilities. At the same time, they’re grappling with the rules of the world – and the fact that some things are not allowed. Because your little one can’t tell you what they’re feeling inside, they end up screaming and throwing themselves around.
But although a toddler in the throes of a tantrum can seem all-powerful, they may be scared by the intensity of their rage. However helpless you may feel, you are the one in charge and need to do everything possible to get that message across. That doesn’t mean having a tantrum yourself or shouting. These are actually signs that you are out of control. What it does mean is being prepared for tantrums and having some tricks up your sleeve to help you deal with them.