Being a parent can be wonderful one minute – but draining and frustrating the next. Whether the kids are fighting over their toys, having a meltdown when they can’t wear pyjamas to school, or having huffs and puffs over homework, it can sometimes be a struggle to keep your cool.
We all have moments when our kids press our buttons - we all know losing your temper and reacting angrily doesn’t help, so what can we do? Check out our 11 top tips for dealing with difficult behaviour.
Why is my child misbehaving?
All children misbehave at times – it’s just a normal part of growing up. As they get older, kids test out rules and boundaries.
How they misbehave is different for every child – your 4 year old may suddenly decide they won’t wear shoes to nursery. Your 8 year old may start “secretly” staying up later than their bedtime.
Sometimes we also forget that children don’t know the “unwritten” rules, so they may not even know they’re being naughty. They might not know that it’s OK to run around at home, but not at Granny’s house – so you need to spell it out for them.
What can I do when my child is starting to misbehave?
The way that you respond when your kid is acting up makes all the difference to whether they’re likely to do it again.
Staying calm and being the one in control makes it easier for them to listen to you and take on board what you’re saying – and makes for a happier household. It can also help to listen to their point of view so you can sort it out if there’s been a misunderstanding. If you lose your temper, the situation can get out of hand quickly, and your child may be more likely to lash out later on.
“I thought we were way past the terrible 2s, but then Hannah started having these big tantrums again when she was 4. I just felt mortified and like everyone was judging me when we were out and about. I found that talking to other parents about how they dealt with it really helped. It made me feel like I wasn’t alone, and helped me to understand that it’s actually normal.”